Love means different things to different people. Some people see love as a solid, unbreakable substance that can never be broken. Others view love as a fragile, precious gift, the only thing in the world worth fighting for. No matter what your view is, the fact is that love transcends all of these concepts.
There are different love languages, or psychological states that allow us to express love more profoundly to others. If you want to express love to a person, it helps to understand their personality. One way to understand their personality is to observe how they handle stress. Are they more compassionate and passionate than the average person, or more passive and agreeable?
Different brain regions respond to different situations. For example, if someone is highly passionate about something, their brain will produce an increased amount of dopamine, which increases one’s emotional intensity. People who are highly passionate about things that they are passionate about tend to be very attractive to the opposite sex. On the other hand, their brains will show decreased activity if they are having a difficult time expressing their romantic love.
Another way to better understand love, especially for relationships, is to understand the effects that your body’s response to affection has on you. If you are intensely attracted to someone, you may experience physical changes in your body. You may sweat a lot. You may feel anxious. All of these changes are due to your body’s reaction to your feelings of attraction to that person.
Pragmatic love style is also important to understand love. The word pragmatism refers to a certain style of thinking about relationship issues that deals more with practicality and harmony, compared to emotional intimacy. Practical people approach relationships with a detached attitude. Emotional intimacy, on the other hand, is often considered after you have determined a solid level of relationship satisfaction that is attainable. So, a pragmatic person would deal with relationship problems that involve a compromise between desired outcomes and realistic expectations.
Lastly, you need to have strong feelings before you engage in a relationship. You do not need strong feelings in one area to be able to have strong feelings in another area. For example, strong feelings towards a parent would lead you to develop strong feelings towards their children. Strong feelings are something that develop over time and can be more easily developed than one person might initially think. As your life experiences various different situations and relationships, you will be in a better position of developing strong feelings for others and love for your own self.