How to Deal With a Crush
Crush, also referred to as a crush, is a slang term for intense feelings of platonic or romantic love, normally felt during early childhood and often between 4 to 14 years old, usually in relation to a parent or guardian. Crushes are more intense than love at first sight, so much so that it can feel like a life-threatening situation for the child. It’s named for the look-alike feeling that a crush may feel for a puppy. Some people may compare a crush to a teenage crush or an adult crush. In a lot of ways, they are very similar and can sometimes feel almost the same as one another.
There are many different kinds of crushes one might feel for another person. For example, a crush on a teacher might feel almost like an addiction to them, while another person might have crushes on family members or friends. A crush on a sibling can sometimes be quite strong, while a crush on a person one considers unattractive might actually lead to an aversion to that person. While crushes are generally harmless and often quite constructive, some crushes can be harmful or embarrassing.
The crushes that seem to haunt teenagers can be extremely powerful and hard to get over. Crushes that seem to come out of nowhere, seemingly out of nowhere can be the most devastating to a teenager, and very difficult to overcome. This is because a teenager might feel that all hopes of ever getting over this crush have been lost, and they have no idea how to move forward with their lives.
While most crushes are formed from early childhood, there are some that form later in life. A crush on a special person, such as an older sister or brother, might actually have a deeper psychological meaning to a young person. It may mean that special person is someone that a young person wants to spend time with and talk to, it might mean that special person is someone that young person hopes will one day become a part of their own life. In other cases, crushes are formed on people that are considered to be less than attractive to a young person. If, for example, a young girl crushes after her own classmate crushes her when she is very shy, the crushes can carry over into many situations down the road, particularly if the crush continues to be treated negatively by the crush’s crush.
Some crushes can become more than just a passing phase during a young person’s life. If the crush continues to be treated unaccepted by the crush’s intended target throughout adolescence and into adulthood, the deep-seated, intense feelings that form the basis of a crush might begin to manifest themselves in verbal or physical ways, or might manifest themselves in unexpected ways. This might make it difficult for the crush to move forward with their lives, but it is important to remember that the crush is something that usually only lasts a short period of time, and then the crush is over.
The best advice that anyone can give another is to simply understand that everyone has different experiences with crushes. Some people might never have a crush and never learn to love their crush. Others might have crushes that last for years and end up being more important than they ever realized. Crushes can be harmless, flattering and fun to have, but they can also be dangerous. If you crush feels dangerous, whether because of the people around you or yourself, make sure you know how to get help to deal with the crush, and understand that a crush will pass.