When a new person enters your life, it’s easy to fall head over heels for them. However, before you dive in to a relationship, it’s important to understand the difference between a crush and a love interest. A crush is based on fantasy, and it tends to occur when you don’t know much about the person, but you idealize them, New York City-based therapist Dr. Bukky Kolawole told INSIDER. It’s a bit different from a real-life romance, which typically develops over time as you spend time with them and they get to know you through shared experiences.
The word “crush” has been around since 1398, but it took a while for it to be commonly used in English. It might have been derived from the French term croissir, which means to break. It also might have been related to the Middle English mash, which was a flirtatious way of describing someone you were interested in.
A crush is an intense and overwhelming emotion that can lead to feelings of love. It can cause you to think about the person all the time and wish you could be with them, but it’s not a sexual or romantic experience. It’s a type of infatuation, and it happens to everyone. There are several ways to know if you have a crush, such as how you feel around the person and your behavior. If you blush easily when your crush is around, or if you are tongue-tied when they speak, it’s possible that you have a crush.
It’s normal to have a crush, but it’s not healthy to stay in the situation if you don’t want to be there. It’s important to seek closure, whether it’s through a private DM or an in-person conversation, so you can move on.
In teen movies, the climax is usually when the crush is revealed (like the bus crash in Mean Girls or the accusation of theft in Titanic). After that, the denouement settles the unrest and teaches the main character lessons for the future. Then, they go on to find stability in a dyadic relationship that’s based on equality.
Crush is a cute, beatiful movie, but it’s also predictable and formulaic. It’s not as good as other contemporary teen flicks, but it still is worth seeing for its inclusive cast and sunny cinematography. It’s a heartwarming reminder that a rom-com doesn’t have to be complicated to work, and that it’s OK to be cheesy and cliche.