What is a Stuck Point?

People who have lost a loved one often become “stuck” in their grieving process. These points may affect their sense of safety and security, their esteem, or even their relationships. A jar lid that is stuck on a glass jar, for example, can be an example of a stuck point. Likewise, a car that has become bogged down in traffic can be an example of a stuck point, too.


There are many different types of stuck. The word can refer to a window or a drawer. It can also refer to a vehicle. A boat, in particular, can be “beached.” Another example is a stranded fish. A jellyfish was pushed back into the sea after being stranded on a beach. Other examples of stuck objects include a car that is stuck in snow, a fish that is trapped in a pond, or an elevator that became “stuck” between two floors.

Often, the person who has lost a loved one is scared they will never feel safe again. This loss event reinforces their negative beliefs, causing them to feel hopeless, fearful, and unsure of how to live in their new reality. In addition, the person is unsure of what they should do and how to live with this new reality. Further, their belief about the loss experience contradicts the previous one, and they struggle to reconcile the conflicting beliefs.