Crush is a word we use to describe an intense infatuation with someone that usually has low or no chance of leading to a romantic relationship. However, the feelings can still be very intense and cause a lot of stress. It can even make us feel a little bit sick to our stomachs. But there are some things you can do to help ease the pain and get rid of your crush.
We spoke to several people who have experienced a crush and found ways to deal with it. Here are some of their tips:
One way to control the feelings is to focus on other parts of your life. Try to find activities that you enjoy doing and spend time with your friends instead of thinking about your crush. This will help to distract you and make it less important.
Another way to deal with a crush is to ask yourself what it is about this person that excites you. If you have a good reason for wanting to be with them, you may find it easier to rationalize the feelings and stop worrying about whether or not you can commit to them.
If you can figure out what it is that you like about them, it’s a good idea to try to communicate that directly with your crush. You can flirt with them and see how they respond, or you can ask to hang out outside of your usual shared settings. But if your crush is in a committed relationship, consider how this will impact their partner before making any decisions.
You can also think about what would bring you closure if your crush was to reject you. This might be something as simple as knowing why they didn’t want to be with you. Or it might be as complex as a conversation about your feelings and the direction of your relationship.
The most common coded responses for positive outcomes were fun and excitement. Participants felt that having a crush provided them with a sense of fantasy and an opportunity to escape from the realities of their own relationships. Other themes included self-esteem boosts and ancillary improvements to their primary relationship.
A lot of the time, having a crush is a healthy and normal part of growing up. It can help to teach us about ourselves and other people. But it’s important to know when it is a problem and take steps to address it, if necessary. Otherwise, it could lead to a lot of heartache down the line. For more information, visit our article on how to manage a crush.